Just Ask Georgia: 8/28/2024

Georgia, I have a question,

I (30M) recently ran into my ex-wife’s sister (28F) at a grocery store. After some small talk and catching up, she asked me out on a date and I’m not sure how I feel about it.

My ex and I divorced amicably and she moved away. I did as well for a time, but I ended up coming back home last year. I had no idea what my ex was doing and didn’t really care. My ex’s sister filled me in that she is engaged and happy, which I was actually happy to hear.

When my ex’s sister asked me if I would like to have a drink with her sometime, I thought maybe she just wanted to catch up in a better setting (more so than two people leaning on shopping carts). But then she said, ‘But I understand if you don’t want to go on a date with your ex wife’s sister.”

I did end up exchanging numbers with her, asking her kind of lightly how her parents would feel and got a ‘they would probably be happy that I found someone they liked.’ I figured I would rather have the number and not use it than wonder if I should have gotten it…I don’t know.

She did mention in our conversation, before she asked me out, that she was always surprised that her sister let such a good guy go, which I corrected her and told her it was definitely mutual, not all on my ex.

Is this my unconscious trying to make my failed marriage seem like a success? Then there’s like — what if the sister0 has the same tendencies that made me and my ex incompatible? But then I feel like I’m also not being fair to her.

What do you think?

Go For Sis?

Dear Go,

Well...this is quite the messy situation you’ve found yourself in. There are literally BILLIONS of women on this planet...and you are considering taking out your sister’s ex? Eek! Can you imagine how awkward family gatherings will be? And what if your ex isn’t ok with this and it drives a wedge between the two siblings?

Are you ready to deal with all that? If your answer is YES! then, well, go for it. If not, tell her there is too much history with her sister to overlook and go on your way.

With love, Georgia