Just Ask Georgia: 4/24/2024

Georgia, I have a question,

Is telling a white lie to save another person's feelings ok? Example: I've gone from a size 18 to a 6 in the last two years through a LOT of hard work and determination. However, I am self-sabotaging and hideously body-conscious. I was having a bad day and asked my partner if I was the hottest girl he had been with. He laughed (almost too much) and said, "No, I was 18 once and have slept with girls with amazing bodies without the stretch marks you have."

Obviously, that hurt beyond words. But I also know I set myself up for failure with the question because I knew I wasn’t the hottest—I was just looking for reassurance that he finds me attractive. Am I overreacting? Was honesty the best policy?

Body Shame

Dear Body,

Your body has nothing to shamed for. There are so many body types, sizes, colors, etc., making us unique and special. And congratulations on the hard work you’ve put in paying off - but it sounds like you are too hard on yourself.

Also, your partner sounds like a dink. If he knows you as well as he should, he knows you wanted reassurance. He could have just said, “I love you for you and how you are right now - the past doesn’t matter.” But he didn’t. Maybe look into dropping another 200 lbs. and find a different partner.

With love, Georgia

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