Go Ask Jo: 8/4/2021

Dear Jo,

I live in a small town (I know, duh). Well, I want to date, at least I think I do. The problem is, if I date someone local, everyone will know my business? Do I need to avoid this? Should I only date people out of town? Should I even care?

Signed,

Alone among friends

Dear Alone,

Honestly, I am surprised you think people will care that much about what you are up to. Unless you are dating someone truly unusual or straight out of the state penitentiary, you should be all set. Don’t do anything crazy or noteworthy and I think you can rest easily.

Signed, Jo

Dear Jo,

My need for advice falls under the age old problem of dating. I finally had courage to date someone after my divorce. It was amazing to feel attractive, to look forward to phone calls and time with someone. I left my marriage with very little self confidence, so feel lucky that the experience was a good one.

Here’s the problem. That dating experience has passed. Now I find myself, if possible, more ill at ease with the thought of dating than I did before! Its terrible putting yourself out there and worrying about being rejected. Help!

Signed,

Simply Single

Dear Single,

Dear Lord, get over it! IF you really want to date, quit overthinking everything and enjoy the process. Just like you are not going to be attracted to everyone, neither is everyone going to be attracted to you. Unless you smell terrible, have the legs of sasquatch, or haven’t shaved your armpits in the last 10 years, you should be able to meet many people and find one who you truly enjoy.

Signed,

Jo