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Georgia, I have a question, Last weekend, my 16-year-old son went thrifting with his friends. He found the score of all scores (in his mind, at least) - a signed Mr. Beast T-shirt, sized large, with a signature and a doodle of a snake. One of his friends resells thrift finds and told him he could make $300 reselling the shirt. He brought it home and was so excited. Well...I washed it. He told me it was valuable, but I washed it anyway because it was from a thrift store. You can just barely make out the faded marks of what once was. He went...
GEORGIA, I have a question, I’m happy with my life - in my late 40s, successful in my profession, solid marriage, and two wonderful sons - until my younger sister enters the room. She’s a surgeon married to another doctor; they have boatloads of money, run marathons for charity, and have the world’s most polite teen. She’s the kind of person who took up painting as a hobby, then won a major competition a year later, got an agent, and booked a gallery show. She acts modest but seems clueless about how every family event turns into a Q&A and is t...
GEORGIA, I have a question, My mother taught me that when being toasted, one doesn’t take a sip, as that’s like tooting one’s own horn. When my spouse and I celebrated an anniversary with a party, the guests toasted us with champagne. When I didn’t sip, one of the guests asked me why, implying that my marriage wasn’t something I wanted celebrated. YIKES! My choices were to “correct” the guest—which I don’t feel is right, as they aren’t one of my children—or leave the impression that my marriage was less than toast-worthy. Neither option appeal...
GEORGIA, I have a question, I never wanted to be a father. After one too many scares in college, I got the snip. I didn’t tell my mother or sisters because, frankly, as much as it may upset them, our family name dying out doesn’t affect me - we aren’t the royals. Over the holidays, I messed around with a family friend's daughter several times. Yesterday, I was woken up by a furious phone call from my mother. The daughter claimed to be pregnant, and I was named as the father. My brain didn’t catch up to my mouth - I told my mom that was impossi...
GEORGIA, I have a question, My current partner has claimed since we started dating two years ago that bullying is his love language. Some days, I handle it well. Other days, it makes me feel very disconnected and unwanted. He enjoys taking jabs at me and has repeatedly claimed that this is what he saw between his parents, so it’s normal. I have pointed out to him that using his parents is not the greatest example of a marriage as both spouses cheated and his mother finally left his father after 20+ years of marriage, once the youngest of six ch...
GEORGIA, I have a question, I (21F) am in college and usually go home for the holidays to spend time with my dad (48M) and extended family. My parents divorced when I was 12, and I’ve always spent part of the holidays with each parent. My dad remarried early last year to “Lisa” (46F), and while we’re polite to each other, we’re not particularly close. This past year, I made plans months in advance to visit my mom’s side of the family for Christmas. I told my dad and Lisa early on, and both seemed fine with it. Fast forward to the second week...
GEORGIA, I have a question, I (25F) am the youngest of four; the rest of my siblings are all married, two of them have kids. I have one child with my ex and two with my fiance. My fiance (29m) is the oldest of three; his two sisters are not married and do not have kids. We have our wedding planned for July. Ever since we told his family, they have been planning nonstop. They literally have vision boards made up at their house, without my opinions or anything. My mother-in-law bought her dress already in a VERY light gold color. Whenever I see...
GEORGIA, I have a question, I work in a small office with just a few people. I get along with everyone and even feel like I’ve made lifelong friends there. However, my boss is terribly forgetful. So, it usually takes a while to get out of something at the office. We recently ran out of toilet paper. After a few times of asking my boss to get more, I broke down and brought my own, which I bring in and out of the bathroom when I need it. The other day, my coworker approached me and asked if they could use my toilet paper. I’m already annoyed by...
GEORGIA, I have a question, What if you attended a New Year’s Eve party with seven other families (about 30 people) running around, mostly male? The night goes excellent, and you leave at 12:15 AM after celebrating the beginning of a new year. At 1:05 AM, you get a text that there’s a hole in the wall; a photo accompanies the text and a request to ask your family about it. No one knows anything. This goes on and on into the next day. Finally, the host asks everyone in attendance to donate $25 to fix the hole since we don’t know who did it, t...
GEORGIA, I have a question, My five-year-old started kindergarten this year and has made many new friends. We recently invited one of these friends over for a playdate; in return, my daughter was invited to her friend’s father’s house (her parents are not together). When we take our daughter to a playdate with a new friend, we always go in with her and then stay long enough to ensure everything is good, meet the parents, etc. My partner took our daughter over to this playdate and reported that the apartment was “very messy” but that, after a...
GEORGIA, I have a question, My father-in-law was “just visiting” from Puerto Rico in mid-July. August came, then September, October, and November. In December, he finally told us that his wife (not my husband’s mother) had told him not to come home. So, we (my husband, four children, and I) invited him to stay with us. At first, we told him not to worry about rent because he is on a fixed income and disabled. We noticed he was sending a lot of money to his ex-wife, so we asked if he could help out with his toiletries to offset the burden of fo...
GEORGIA, I have a question, I treated a friend to lunch, but when we entered the restaurant, she mentioned that someplace else was better. I was taken aback and thought it was an unconscious slip, but this happened again with a different friend. What could I have said to indicate their comments were rude without offending them? LUNCH CHOICES Dear CHOICES, It is impolite to tell others that they are being rude, but perhaps you may accomplish this by making them feel foolish instead. Look concerned and ask, in a quiet voice, if they would prefer...
Georgia, I have a question, My fiance and I got engaged over Christmas. His brother got engaged over Thanksgiving. We were so happy because we are all good friends and thought going through the same phase of life together would be fun. They got their wedding venue immediately and booked for June 6, 2026. They did not ask us about the date before putting down a deposit or anything for the venue, nor did we expect them to. We had a conversation with them afterward, and we agreed we wouldn’t book for June 2026 out of courtesy to them, so both w...
Georgia, I have a question, What’s the protocol for picking up the check when a couple dines with a single person? When visiting our daughter for the holidays, my husband and I went out to dinner with her, her boyfriend, and her boyfriend’s mother. The mother is a single parent, and we have met her a few times. My husband and I paid for the meal, which he thought was the polite thing to do. However, I disagree, as the boyfriend’s mother is loaded! She has pearls and furs and smells of Christian Dior. Why should we have to pony up for her meal...
Georgia, I have a question, My annual Christmas party is coming up, and I want to uninvite my sister and her fiance. Let me explain. Last year, when asked if she was going, she said with disgust, “I’m not going to that,” but then showed up late, announced her engagement, and left. I would’ve been happy for her, but she didn’t say hello to me, didn’t say goodbye, didn’t even show me the ring. I just heard cheering from the other room, and then, after they left, it was all anyone could talk about. This year, I invited all my siblings again, and i...
GEORGIA, I have a question, At Thanksgiving dinner at my inlaws this weekend, my mother-in-law handed me several napkins in the middle of the meal. I became very self-conscious, thinking I must be making a mess. I checked my mirror, and everything was fine as far as I could tell, but I still felt embarrassed. Sometimes, I need extra napkins, but I prefer to ask for them myself. On the other hand, I appreciate my mother-in-law's kindness, so I wouldn’t want to discourage her from being alert and helpful. What’s your take? NOT MESSY MESSY EAT...
Georgia, I have a question, My fourteen-year-old daughter just had her baby last week. She chose to name her daughter Prayerleigh Annnejanston. I absolutely hate the name. I don’t know what to do. Do I voice my concerns or just let her do her own thing since she’s an adult now? NAME HATIN’ Dear HATIN’, Oh my, oh my, oh my. There is so much to unpack in that one short paragraph. 14. Fourteen. FOURTEEN. Your 14-year-old CHILD just had a CHILD of her own. She IS NOT an adult, as you stated, but a little girl who is probably scared of what her futu...
GEORGIA, I have a question, This morning, my husband showed me a great sale on an artificial Christmas tree. It was about the price we paid for fresh trees for two years. We both want to switch to an artificial tree. My 23-year-old daughter lives with us, and she insists that we continue the tradition of getting a real tree. I feel that since she plans on getting her own place soon, she shouldn’t get a vote. She can have whatever kind of tree she wants when she moves out. I also feel that even if she did get a vote, her opinion doesn’t hav...
Georgia, I have a question, Last Sunday, I saw something at church that really unsettled me. A woman, probably in her 40s, walked in covered in tattoos and numerous piercings. She looked homeless, her clothes were fairly ratty, and she didn’t smell the best. For me, the church has always been a place to put your best foot forward, a place of modesty and reverence, and I couldn’t help but feel like she could have tried harder when visiting such a sacred space. After the service, I decided to approach her. I tried to be polite, but I told her...
Georgia, I have a question, Last year I (16F) went prom dress shopping with my grandma (54F) and my mom (35F). I found a lovely dress, and they each paid for half. I was cleaning my room a few weeks ago when my grandma stopped by and mentioned how she would “love to try it on and borrow it for a weekend.” I laughed her comment off and again hung the dress in the back of my closet. Yesterday she asked if she could borrow the dress for a formal party this weekend. I said NO. She then went on a rant about how she paid for half of it and it...
Georgia, I have a question, My best friend is getting married. We’ve been lifelong friends and have dreamt of this day most of our lives. I am so very happy for her. She asked me to be her maid of honor; however, I cannot be at her wedding due to an overseas deployment with the military, which I leave for in about a month. She understood and asked another close friend. Last weekend, we went dress shopping with her mom and the maid of honor. The bride found a dress she absolutely loves—it is beyond gorgeous. However, it is also EXTREMELY out...
Georgia, I have a question, My husband and I went on vacation with my best friend and her husband. When we arrived at the resort, we were given a $200 voucher for services due to an inconvenience we had experienced (not our fault, not the resort's). We thanked the front staff, talked about it with each other, and said each couple had $100 to spend how they wished. However, my best friend said they weren’t interested in dealing with the” hassle” a resort credit would cause. Five days later, we are on the plane coming home. My best friend mention...
Georgia, I have a question, Is it appropriate to show up for the reception if you have not attended the funeral? My brother-in-law passed away, and we traveled out of town for the funeral, staying at a hotel. My daughter lives about an hour away from where we were staying. She has only met my husband’s family four times in 10 years. She could not attend the wake or the funeral but wanted to attend the reception and family meal at the restaurant. I told her it would be inappropriate and intrusive to just show up at the meal if she did not a...
Georgia, I have a question, I sell adult content on a few different platforms. It’s not a big secret, but I also don’t really talk about it to most people I know. My sister-in-law’s husband recently paid for a subscription to one of my spicy pages. As much as I can, I remove and block, refuse to sell to, people who are local to me. However, his subscription somehow slipped through. I told and showed my husband when it came up, and I asked him if he wanted to tell his sister. He said kind of, but he didn’t want to deal with family drama if he d...
Georgia, I have a question, My (32f) fiance Peter (30m) had arranged a candle-lit dinner in a hotel room. There were flowers, rose peddles, and music. It was my favorite dinner and my favorite dessert. Peter was in a tuxedo, and I was wearing a dress. That evening was amazing. While I was eating, my IBS started acting up. I ran to the bathroom. It was mortifying, but I was comfortable enough with Peter to allow him to come in. I apologized for ruining our evening while on the toilet, and he said it was okay. I felt he wanted to ask me to marry...
